来自《耶鲁大学开放课程：心理学导论 第10集 第10集》

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  on sex and love where he talked about the "big three."
  性和爱的精彩讲述中他提到了三大要素
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  These are the "big three" to remind you of
  就是我们为什么会被别人吸引
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  what attracts us to somebody else.
  的三大要素
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  You are very attracted to the person next to you or a person that--
  你被你旁边的人吸引
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  because of proximity, similarity,familiarity.
  因为接近性 相似性和熟悉性
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  And there is abundant evidence supporting the truth of this.
  而且有大量的证据支持这个观点
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  It's almost always true
  这几乎总是对的
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  but the evolutionary psychologist looks at this and says
  但是进化心理学家看到这儿会说
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  there's something seriously wrong here.
  有个地方错的非常厉害
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  There are some cases where that has to be totally,
  有些例子完全
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  absolutely mistaken.
  绝对是错的
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  To realize what this is,
  为了弄明白这点